It's clear. One word. Five letters.
Cross the line and you've sinned.
I came across a post on Facebook this evening from someone who made it clear that wearing fake eyelashes and mascara is in Islam "haram", in other words: forbidden. So forbidden that it is a sin you will be punished for.
The most Loving.
The most Merciful...?
She even stated why it's forbidden.... a simple statement from the Hadith (collected sayings from the Prophet Muhammad) which reads:
"The Lord shall damn women who extends her hair or asks her hair to be extended."
I grew up in school with the person who posted this.
I grew up knowing that she has always been religious. Always perfect. Always the one who memorised pages and pages from the Quran. And she was a nice girl. Still is. She's soft-spoken, disciplined, obedient and exceptionally feminine. And I have nothing against her for posting this.
What bugs me is what all this reminds me of - a past that left me all shaken and confused.
I could wake up one day just to get another strange rule rammed into my head, and I was told that such rules come from a credible source when not from the Quran. And I ended up asking myself WHY?
Who can prove that the Prophet said that?
Who can prove that the Hadith is untouched, unmodified, unaltered in any sort of way?
But then who talked about hair extensions and mascara and fake eyelashes thousands of yeas ago? Tyra Banks? I don't think so.
Another question I have is why women?
Why do women in Islam have to put up with so many rules?
I remember being reprimanded by my teachers for wearing pants in school. They even told me to leave.
I remember having my keychains (souvenirs from my travels) confiscated from my schoolbag because they 'attract too much attention'.
And I remember my mum and grandmother pulling me aside and telling me that I will be damned because I stopped wearing the scarf, and for good.
Rules, rules, rules....
And ridiculous ones at that.
It drove me insane.
Now it's the mascara and fake eyelashes.
But then again, why just mascara and fake eyelashes? Why not generalize and say that make-up, in any shape and form, is forbidden?
But then again I'm sure there's somewhere a Hadith for that too.
Just have to go Google it.
I'm wondering what damage mascara and fake eyelashes do, for a woman to deserve to be damned.
And if a muslim transvestite (God forbid) or cross-dresser does the same, does he get damned? Or does he not get damned just because he's actually a MAN?
Sounds a little too sexist, doesn't it?
Oh wait, they do sin too since they're not supposed to dress up as women.
I'm also really sure that I have heard of a Hadith that says something like: if the muslim women does not put effort into beautifying herself for her lawful husband, she has sinned.
Tell me how in the world without a little make-up?
Someone trying to shit with me here.
So what is it then?
No make-up for women?
No make-up for men?
No make-up at all?
Had anyone ever made a clear, logical decision?
Here's another point to that: if a woman isn't allowed to wear mascara and therefore doesn't beautify herself and her shallow husband goes all Bluetooth and searches for other devices (other women) then it's her fault for ruining the entire marriage!
Wow... what a good way to stab women in the back.
You just gotta love it.
Contradiction after contradiction after contradiction.
Explains why I just don't need this craziness in my life.
It's really not an issue.
Not all women put on make-up, or fake-eyelashes (a nightmare) or mascara.
It's not the most important thing in the world that deserves to be a rule or a law.
This just had to remind me again of all the shit that went through my mind... the rules they taught me in school, the rules they taught me at home, and how not a day passed without me shitting myself thinking: "I've sinned. I'm going to hell. God will punish me."
So much until I got angry and cursed at God for making all the rules. But He wasn't the one.
Until I got angry at myself for letting indoctrination get to me. But I wasn't the one.
Until I walked away from every single person who keeps putting these ideas into my head.
Ideas that made me suicidal.
I personally don't like fake eyelashes but I'd rather keep my mascara instead of my blind faith.